When someone asks about your best personal qualities, how will you answer?
Many people feel bashful when they must describe positive qualities. Some even just give normative answers (“kind, honest, strong”) without really understanding what they mean.
Nurturing great qualities is important in positive psychology. You can live a better life and experience personal growth by developing commendable personal traits. Here are seven important qualities a person can cultivate and why they are important.
Compassion is a strong trait that moves huge positive force. It encourages other positive traits such as empathy, understanding, and ability to listen without judging. While compassion brings positive results in other people’s life, your positive emotion will also get rewarded.
Compassionate people have a more balanced view toward the world around them. It also directly encourages individuals to perform good activities, such as donating for charity, fostering kids, adopting pets, or helping people in need.
Tranquility is a precious quality in this fast-paced, internet era. Being tranquil allows your thoughts to process information in calm, moderate manners. It also prevents you from being agitated and rushed, something that many modern people experience even over the smallest problems.
Tranquility also stops you from experiencing “the fear of missing out.” Understanding that you don’t need to follow all trends will make you feel at-peace.
Patience is the ability to experience present moments, whether positive or negative, without being angry, anxious, or agitated. Being patient makes it easier to focus on present situations and think about the best ways to face them.
Patience is also important when you are striving to achieve a goal. Many people don’t have enough patience to finish the current tasks. With patience, you can slowly work toward your goal with a lower stress level.
One of the most popular motivational quotes is “Genius is 10 percent talent and 90 percent hard work.” Determination plays right into it. Being determined means having a firm purpose and resoluteness to achieve it. Everyone can have it, even if you don’t have high I.Q or graduating from a top university.
Determination is not just about achieving financial or professional goals. It can be about overcoming personal adversities, like addiction or bad habits.
People often think of courage as something related to aggressive or daring behaviors. However, courage, in general, is about facing your fear. For example, you are courageous if you face possible unpleasant consequences when admitting mistakes. You are also courageous when opening up about traumatic experiences before starting a healing process.
Courage also means internal strength that you need to face adversity. For example, if you experience a chronic illness, courage allows you to face life every day with a stronger and more positive outlook.
Many people are afraid of “integrity” because they don’t want to sound moralist. However, being a person of integrity has nothing to do with morals or formal law. If you have integrity, it means you hold values and conscience in every decision you make.
Strong integrity prevents you from cheating, stealing, or doing something that hurts others even when no one sees you. Losing integrity means you are no longer reliable and trustworthy.
Wisdom is placed the last because it is not the same as the other qualities. You can “train” your mind to possess the previous six qualities, but you only gain wisdom with time and experiences. A wise person uses his or her experiences and learning results to make good decisions, based on thorough thinking, conscience, and careful judgment.
Unlike common belief, wisdom is not always related to age. Many older people fail to accumulate wisdom in their senior years, while some younger people actually have wiser ways to talk and behave. It depends on how well you apply the “life lessons” from your past experiences.
Balancing the Qualities
When you already possess these qualities, you cannot stop there.
Another important thing is to balance them in every step. You must use all these qualities in good proportions. Being excessive in one quality can result in poor judgment and wrong options.
For example, if you have strong bravery without wisdom, the result is reckless behavior.
If you are tranquil but without determination (and action), you will end up as a passive person.
If you are compassionate, but without wisdom, others can make use of your kindness and exhaust you.
Finding a good balance between these qualities is the key to achieve the best version of you.
Can you train to get positive qualities? The answer is: yes. You can train your mind to act more compassionate, determined, courageous, patient, and tranquil. You can also force your mind to always apply integrity, regardless of outcomes. Once you apply these things in life, wisdom will follow.
Having positive personal qualities is not just about being successful. It will encourage you to be a better person, with a long-lasting positive impact on mental health, social aspect, and relationship.